The first Tea Party Lady in my life went almost completely unrecognized, I'm sad to say, until long after her death.
My grandma, Anita Mabel, born in 1912, somehow held herself together through childhood neglect and abuse, an alcoholic husband, poverty during the depression. She was a survivor, no doubt about it, but she never got to enjoy being a Tea Party Lady.
(Note: I changed the title to MY First Tea Party Lady, because folx looking for the VERY FIRST Tea Party Lady were mistakenly ending up here.)